There. I said it. 💥
If you are a “people pleaser” or overachiever like me, you are probably reading this like —> 😳 thinking I’m insane. But you guys know I’m just keeping it real on here.
A year ago the word “no” truly wasn’t a part of my vocabulary. Ask me to do something? Yes. Hosting an event? Yes, I’ll be there. But can I tell you something? Most of the things I said yes to I really wasn’t interested in and they weren’t serving me...I was saying yes to serve others. With that came anxiety about being a part of events that I didn’t want to go to, stress of not having any time for myself...the list goes on. .
I’m giving you permission to say no. Once I started doing this, my true interests became more clear as did the people with whom I wanted to spend my time. Yes I still consider myself a “doer” but I only commit to the things I love. I don’t say yes to every invite. And guess what, I don’t feel bad about it either. 🤫
And another truth bomb? YOU DON’T HAVE TO MAKE AN EXCUSE FOR YOUR NO. YOU DON’T OWE A LENGTHY EXPLANATION TO ANYONE. If it’s not serving YOU a simple no thank you or no is enough. I get it. I overthink too. What will they think? Will they be offended? I think I need to make up some detailed reason as to why I’m saying no. But guess what? Oh well if someone is offended. Now this might sound like I’m being extremely selfish and rude, but that’s not really my intention. Your tribe, your true friends and family will get you. YOU are the most important thing and if you’re not serving yourself and doing what you want, no one else will benefit.
I challenge you to start saying no. I promise the more you do, the more sincere you’re going to become.