So often, people will fall prey to another person’s toxicity and, afterwards, look back and say “I can’t believe I fell for that!” Or “How did I allow myself to be in that situation?”
Here’s the deal: No matter how successful, beautiful, smart, wise, intelligent, courageous, mature, or tough we are, we all have an Achilles heel. .
We are all prone to fall for things that are unworthy of us. We all have blind spots that can be manipulated and used with ease. .
We all have them. So falling prey to anyone’s toxic behavior is never a matter of if but when. .
And when you get how true that is, you’ll stop blaming yourself for what you ‘fell’ for and you’ll start building your awareness of what you are prone to fall for in the future... SO... when that shows up again, you now have the awareness and ability to make a DIFFERENT choice... and that’s what all of life comes down to: learning, over time, how to choose differently. That’s the WIN in all of this. .
Life is not about never falling or never getting used or manipulated. Life is about getting better, stronger, and faster at repelling manipulation and toxicity sooner than you did the last time... and, after a while of doing, you’ll find that you being a magnet for toxic people goes away, not because you don’t still come across those people but because, when you now do, you respond to all of them very differently from the get go... and it takes a while to get to that point.
So be patient with yourself and be patient with the process of life and start to get aware of what you are a magnet for. .
Only then can you shift the attraction of that to you. You can... and you will... #trustthat